Aug 1, 2014

"He is a writer of fiction. He puts on masks for a living.": An...

Think about what Yunior’s operative mode is… Deception.

Playing roles. Wearing masks. And then think about what Yunior does for his work. He is a writer of fiction. He puts on masks for a living. I don’t think it’s an accident, this connection, and this overlap. Yunior has turned a problem in his social life into the engine that powers his artistic life. But if he was just a liar I doubt he would be very interesting. What makes Yunior so attractive and so problematic is that he is both brutally honest and blithely mendacious. He really has a scathing eye, talks about stuff most of us would shy away from bringing up. He’s also a top-notched prevaricator. The game of the book is always for the reader to parse when he’s being one versus when he’s being the other.

But look at Yunior’s life; look at all he has suffered. He was never really loved in his family like his brother was. A smart, sensitive political kid, he had a tough time in the world he grew up in. I don’t ever really come out and say it but any one who grew up in a place like London Terrace, reading and dreaming, can only imagine what kind of turmoil a young Yunior must have faced. Not tougher than many young lives but tough enough — not a life you’d want for your kid, certainly. There is tremendous vulnerability in this character. What is he afraid of you ask? Perhaps returning to that vulnerability. Confronting it again. What is he so afraid of revealing? Himself: weak, despised, alone and desperately wanting the connection he was always denied.

… Look, Yunior, is traumatized about these things. Which is why he can only circle the wounds, is never really capable of entering them and through that re-encounter with his old pain finding peace. Not yet at least.

 that putting the pieces of yourself back together, after terrific violence, often takes a lifetime.

Jul 27, 2014

Jul 26, 2014
what i strive to give my loved ones and what the people in my most life-giving relationships have given me. we walk together.

what i strive to give my loved ones and what the people in my most life-giving relationships have given me. we walk together.

(Source: chaplinoona, via recoveryisbeautiful)

Jul 15, 2014
You must want to know the truth more than you want to feel secure in order to fully awaken to the fact that you are nothing but Awakeness itself.
Adyashanti (via lazyyogi)
Jul 15, 2014
Jul 15, 2014

I understood myself only after I destroyed myself.

And only in the process of fixing myself, did I know who I really was.

Sade Andria Zabala | Thought of the Day: Self-Discovery (via pri5cillasanchez)

(via recoveryisbeautiful)

Jul 15, 2014

"My definition of poor are those who need too much. Because those who need too much are never satisfied."

"It seems that we have been born only to consume, and to consume, and when we can no longer consume, we have a feeling of frustration and we suffer from poverty, and we are auto marginalised."

- Jose Mujia, President of Uruguay

Jul 7, 2014
1. Sometimes the best management is no management at all — first do no harm!
2. Indifference is as important as passion.
3. In organizational life, you can have influence over others or you can have freedom from others, but you can’t have both at the same time.
4. Saying smart things and giving smart answers are important. Learning to listen to others and to ask smart questions is more important.
5. Learn how to fight as if you are right and listen as if you are wrong: It helps you develop strong opinions that are weakly held.
6. You get what you expect from people. This is especially true when it comes to selfish behavior; unvarnished self-interest is a learned social norm, not an unwavering feature of human behavior.
7. Getting a little power can turn you into an insensitive self-centered jerk.
8. Avoid pompous jerks whenever possible. They not only can make you feel bad about yourself, chances are that you will eventually start acting like them.
9. The best test of a person’s character is how he or she treats those with less power.
10. The best single question for testing an organization’s character is: What happens when people make mistakes?
11. The best people and organizations have the attitude of wisdom: The courage to act on what they know right now and the humility to change course when they find better evidence.
12. The quest for management magic and breakthrough ideas is overrated; being a master of the obvious is underrated.
13. Err on the side of optimism and positive energy in all things.
14. It is good to ask yourself, do I have enough? Do you really need more money, power, prestige, or stuff?
15. Jim Maloney is right: Work is an overrated activity.
Bob Sutton via Gretchen Rubin
Jun 17, 2014

Be courageous, but not foolhardy.

Walk proud as you are.

Maya Angelou, from What I Know Now: Letters to My Younger Self
May 24, 2014

from Rainer Maria Rilke’s Book of Hours: Love Poems to God

I believe in all that has never yet been spoken.
I want to free what waits within me
so that what no one has dared to wish for
may for once spring clear
without my contriving.

If this is arrogant, God, forgive me,
but this is what I need to say.
May what I do flow from me like a river,
no forcing and no holding back,
the way it is with children.

Then in these swelling and ebbing currents,
these deepening tides moving out, returning,
I will sing you as no one ever has,
streaming through widening channels
into the open sea.

(translated by Anita Barrows and Joanna Macy)

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